Being a Carer...

Although this isn't a job as such, especially when you're caring for someone that means a lot to you, whether it be a parent, a partner, a child or a very good friend... it has it's upsides and it's downsides... the person you're caring for, shouldn't see that caring for them causes you some trouble too... but sometimes it unavoidably happens...

Everything you do... is for this person... you go out of your way for them and disregard yourself, to try and help make their life a bit easier, or more comfortable, so that they can actually have some kind of a life again, instead of just an existence...

As for myself...

I want the person I care for, to be back to full health so that she can live life again without the "NEED" for anyone to help her, unless it's something she truly wants assistance doing... not because she can't do it herself, but because it would be easier with someone helping out...

I never thought that I would become a carer for anyone, least alone my best friend in the world...

Caring for a "loved one" (and I'll use that term loosely), isn't something that's planned... It just seems to happen...

There are times that the person you're caring for thinks only of "their" condition, and think nothing of how the carer is coping with things...

Why ???

Because the carer is there to look after them, no questions asked, and they're expected to be there, and do what's needed at a moments notice, without a word of complaint... let me tell you... it can be difficult at times...

The person being cared for "DOES" appreciate everything you do, even if they don't tell you... but at the same time... they also feel inadequate, or embarrassed at you having to help them with things they used to take for granted...

I'll leave you with one question...

Who cares for the carers when they need some help ?

 

Since asking that question 13 months ago... I can answer it for you...

There is help the carers, in a section of the support forum...

 

 


Name: Colin

Added: December 13 2006